3 Love Engaged. Wedding.
Britain the custom of becoming engaged is still generally retained,
though many young people dispense with it, and the number of such couples is
increasing. As a rule, an engagement is announced as soon as a girl has
accepted a proposal of marriage, but in some cases it is none a good time
afterwards. Rules of etiquette dictate that the girl's parents should be the
first to hear the news; in practice, however, it is often the couple's friends
who are taken into confidence before either of the parents. If a man has not
yet met his future in-laws he does so at the first opportunity, whereas his
parents usually write them a friendly letter. It is then up to the girl's
mother to invite her daughter's future in-laws to a meal or drinks. Quite
often, of course, the man has been a frequent visitor at the girl's
house long before the engagement, and their families are already well
girl accepts a proposal, the man generally gives her a ring in token of the
betrothal. It is worn on the third finger of the left hand before marriage and
together with the wedding ring after it. Engagement rings range iron;
expensive diamond rings to rings with Victorian semi-precious stones costing
only a few pounds.
cases the engagement itself amounts only to announcement being made to
the parents on both sides and to friends and relations, but some people
arrange an engagement party, and among the better-off people it is customary
to put an announcement in the newspaper.
book Etiquette the author writes that "as soon as congratulations and
the first gaieties of announcement are over, a man should have a talk with the
girl's father about the date of their wedding, where they will live, how well
off he is and his future plans and prospects." Nowadays this is often not
done, one of the reasons being that today the young people enjoy a greater
degree of financial independence that they used to, to be able to decide these
matters for themselves. However, in working class families, where the family
ties are still strong and each member of the family is more economically
dependent upon the rest, things are rather different. Quite often,
particularly in the larger towns, the couple will have no option but to live
after marriage with either the girl's or the man's people. Housing shortage in
Britain is still acute, and the rents are very high. It is extremely difficult
to get unfurnished accommodation, whereas a furnished room, which is easier to
get, costs a great deal for rent. In any case, the young couple may prefer to
live with the parents in order to have a chance to save up for things for
their future home.
the young people, particularly those of the higher-paid section of the
population, often make their own decisions concerning the wedding and their
future, the parents, particularly the girl's, still play an important part in
the ensuing activities, as we shall see later.
period of engagement is usually short, three or four months, but this is
entirely a matter of choice and circumstances.
1. Read and translate
2. Find in the text
the English equivalents to following:
обычай, пара, молодые люди,
обручение, объ€вл€ть, правила этикета, будущие родственники, приглашать,
принимать предложение, дарить кольцо, обручальное кольцо, обходитьс€ без.
3. Supply the missing
words or word combinations according to the text:
a) As a rule, an engagement is
announced as soon as a girlЕ
b) It is often the coupleТs
c) ItТs up to the daughterТs
mother to inviteЕ
d) The ring is worn on the
e) In any case, the young
couple may prefer to live with the parents in order toЕ
f) The period of engagement
is usually short,Е
4. Study the following
words and word combinations and use them in your questions to the text:
to engage, to dispense
with, as a rule, to accept, a proposal, to dictate, in practice, the first
opportunity, to be up to somebody, to be well acquainted, housing shortage,
extremely difficult, to save up for, to make oneТs own decision.
1. Look through the
Marriage Contract (excerpts) and make up a dialogue
Security and trust
__________ (husband) will secure the house so that it is safe from outside
forced entry. Prior to retiring at night and leaving in the morning __________
(husband) will secure all doors, windows, and openings.
__________ (wife) and __________ (husband) will avoid dangerous situations and
__________ (wife) and __________ (husband) will physically protect one
__________ (wife) and __________ (husband) will inform one another of their
whereabouts and plans within reasonable estimates (1 hour) of time, i.e., "I'm
going shopping and will be back at about 5:00." Return at 6:00 is OK. "I'll
meet you at the restaurant at 12:00 for lunch." One hour late is too late.
__________ (husband) and/or __________ (wife) will provide the financial
support for the family. __________
(husband) does not/does expect that __________ (wife) will work outside the
Additional comments regarding financial support.
__________ (husband) will contribute # __________ percent and __________
(wife) will contribute # __________ percent of the monthly household budget
which is $ __________.
2. It is
interesting to know:
Who Was the First Bride to Be Given a Diamond Engagement Ring?
Mary of Burgundy. When the Archduke Maximilian of Austria proposed to her, he
was told that he had to give her a diamond ring. So he did, and from that time
on it was the fifteenth century - diamonds have been associated with
engagement rings. Х
still the custom in Britain and US for a man and woman who are going to marry
to get engaged -to tell their parents, other relatives and friends, sometimes
have a party and perhaps put a notice in the newspaper. The man usually gives
the woman an engagement ring.
wedding ring is traditionally a plain ring of yellow or white gold or
platinum. In Britain and USA the wedding ring is worn on the third finger of
the left hand and at the wedding ceremony is placed on the finger before the
engagement ring. Only the wedding ring, not the engagement ring is engraved
with the couple's initials and the date of the wedding.
What Is the English for "теща"
Russian words have one English equivalent "mother-in-law". English terms for
relatives through marriage are much easier and more logical than the Russian
counterparts. Nowadays few Russian native speakers know for sure who is "деверь"
and what is the difference between "невестка"
Generally speaking, the English system of family terms is easier and more
logical than the Russian one. The wife's or husband's mother will be
"mother-in-law", father - "father-in-law", sister - "sister-in-law", etc.
Why Is the Second Wedding Anniversary Called "Cotton"?
a long-standing tradition associated with giving wedding anniversary presents,
especially on major anniversaries. In old times it was probably considered
that the young family will need linen in their third married year, especially
if they have started a family (have a baby). Here is a list of wedding
anniversaries. Guess what kinds of presents were given for these and try to
explain the logic of it.
First Ц Paper
Second Ц Cotton
Third Ц Leather
Fourth - Fruit & Flowers
Fifth Ц Wooden
Sixth - Sugar & candy
Seventh Ц Woollen
Eighth Ц Salt
Ninth Ц Copper
Tenth Ц Tin
Eleventh Ц Steel
Twelfth - Silk & linen
Thirteenth Ц Lace
Fourteenth Ц Ivory
Fifteenth Ц Crystal
Twentieth Ц China
Twenty-fifth Ц Silver
Thirtieth Ц Pearl
Thirty-fifth Ц Coral
Fortieth Ц Ruby
Forty-fifth Ц Sapphire
Fiftieth Ц Golden
Fifty-fifth Ц Emerald
Sixtieth Ц Diamond
and learn the dialogue by heart.
Andrew who are roommates are sitting in a church. They are waiting for their
friend Margo to be married.
musicТs starting to play!
the weddingТs about to begin. ItТs hard to believe that MargoТs getting
DoesnТt Margo look beautiful?
she is a lovely bride.
you met the guy sheТs marrying?
A: No, I
donТt know the groom. But he looks like a nice person.
we get a chance to meet him in an hour or so.
must be kidding. We wonТt have a chance to get acquainted with him at the
reception. HeТll be too busy cutting the wedding cake and having his picture
taken with Margo.
youТre right about that.
know what we could do, though. Why donТt we take them out for dinner next week
when they get back from their honeymoon?
Answer the questions:
a) Who is
b) Do Jan and
Andrew know the guy sheТs marrying?
c) Will they
have a chance to have acquainted with him at the wedding receptions?
d) What are they
going to do to have acquainted with him?
Roleplay the conversation УA Lovely BrideФ
other students about the last wedding you went to.
Forms of Marriage
England and Wales there are four forms of marriage: by banns, by ordinary
licence, by special licence and by a registrar.
Marriage by Banns
is the form most usually adopted Banns must be called for three consecutive
Sundays in the parish churches of both the future bride and the groom unless
they both live in the same parish. They must have been resident for at least
fifteen days previous to the first publication of the banns. There is a small
fee for the certificate of banns.
clergyman at the church where the marriage is to take place must be notified
by letter of the couple's intention to marry, of their names and addresses and
how long they have resided in their parishes.
of the parties is a minor, a letter of consent must be obtained from both
parents, and attached. (The form can be obtained from the Superintendent
Registrar of the district.) If the marriage is to take place in the bride's
church, a certificate of calling of the banns must be obtained from the
bridegroom's parish clergyman. The marriage must then take place within three
months of the banns being published.
Marriage by Ordinary Licence
is a convenient alternative to the publications of banns. In London,
application must be made by one party to the Faculty Office, where he will
swear that he does not know of any impediment to the marriage such as being
legally married to another or consanguineous relationship, and that one of the
parties has lived for at least fifteen days in the parish of the church where
the marriage is to take place.
licence is valid in England and Wales for three months after the date of
issue. Outside London, it can be obtained from any Bishop's Registry Office in
a cathedral town or from a Superintendent Registrar in the district of
residence. The. licence is granted without previous notice and is available as
soon as it is issued, but the marriage must take place in a church named on
Marriage by Special Licence
costs £25 and can be obtained only for special reasons such as suddenly being
sent abroad. It is never granted lightly. Application must be made in person
by one of the parties at the Faculty Office. The marriage can then take place
at any time and in any place, celebrated by the rites of the church, and
residence qualifications are unnecessary.
by a Registrar can be celebrated, without any religious ceremony, at a
registry office. Notice must be given by one of the parties of the intended
marriage, if both have resided in the district for seven days immediately
preceding the notice. If one has lived in another district, notice must be
given to his or her local registrar. The certificate is issued twenty-one days
after the notice has been given.
Marriages can take place in a registered building in the presence of an
authorized person between 8 a. m. and 6 p. m.
the text and give a summary of it in comparison with Russian ceremony.
the comprehension questions to the text.
Discuss the text with your partner.
Points to ponder:
Imagine your parents are arranging a marriage for you. What questions would
you like them to ask about your future husband/wife?
is your opinion of arranged marriages?