ARE YOU A
LION OR A MOUSE?
about to go to bed when you hear screams in the street. What do you do?
the police (3)
b. go to
yourself with a hammer and go outside to help (5)
waiting to be served in a shop, but the assistant keeps on chatting
with a colleague. What do you do?
the manager (5)
b. go to
another shop (1)
interrupt the conversation (3)
would you do if you saw a child being violently hit by its mother?
the woman to stop (5)
for a policeman (3)
in a non-smoking carriage on a train and somebody lights a cigarette. What do
them to put it out and point to the sign (3)
the carriage (1)
them to the guard (5)
would you react if a stranger pushed you into a swimming pool?
out and push him in (3)
him to the attendant (1)
What would you do if your boss passed a rule that you thought was nonsense?
it anyway (1)
b. try to
persuade him to change his mind (3)
do you do if your doctor prescribes tablets for you to take?
him what they are for and if they have side-effects (3)
for a second opinion (5)
driving normally when you notice a police car behind you. What do you do?
on driving the way you are (3)
speed up (5)
9. In a
relationship what do you prefer to be?
(3) b. dominant (5) c. the underdog (1)
Someone's telling you the same story for the 10th time. What do you do?
a. try to
look interested (1)
and say, "Not again" (5)
out that you've heard it before (3)
Nobody can make a decision
without you interfering. People give in to you - but only to keep
Friends can count on you
and you can always get your point across without being offensive.
You're so afraid of being
unpopular that you're frightened to open your mouth. Stand up for yourself
and for others - it will earn you a lot more respect.
this unit, you should be able to answer the following questions:
how the issues if power competitions
whether men and women can be friends,
if people of different age can be friends,
if a friend is a person with whom you may
be sincere, and so on.
Just now you
are probably more interested in questions about your friendships with the
other sex than in future parenthood. When should boys and girls begin dating?
What about going steady? What are good ways of showing friendship or affection
for someone of the opposite sex?
and straight “yes” or “no” answers are not as useful to you as knowledge of
certain facts and principles that help you to find your own answers, and to
understand why some actions are considered right or wrong.
1. a person,
not a relation, who one knows and likes well
e.g. She is my
e.g. He has
been a good friend to me.
to make friends
(with smb.) = to be (become) a friend of a person
2. a helpful
thing or quality
gossips, silence can be your best friend.
3. a helper or
e.g. a good
friend of the poor.
[‘frendli] adj. (-ier, -iest); opp. - unfriendly
(to, towards, with smb.) acting or ready to act as a friend
to be on
friendly terms with smb.
n., opp. hostility
[‘frend∫ip] n. (an instance, period, of)
the feeling of
relationship that exists between friends.
e.g. I enjoy my
friendship with her.
e.g. We have
enjoyed a friendship of 20 years.
alliance, association, attachment, closeness, fellowship, fondness, harmony,
intimacy, rapport, relationship.
associate, inf. buddy, inf. chum, companion, comrade,
confidant(e), inf. crony, intimate, inf. mate, pal, partner,
playmate, supporter, well-wisher.
FRIENDS FOR, ANYWAY?
the story and do the activities.
Nick were born on the same day, in the same town, and spent their first night
of life together in the same hospital nursery. They grew up two streets apart
and went to the same elementary school. For thirteen years they were
inseparable. "Like the Bobbsey Twins," Peter's grandmother said, over and
over. "Just like the Bobbsey Twins. Except they're boys."
day about a month ago, Nick moved away. His mother had taken a job in another
city on the other side of the country. "You can fly out this summer," Nick's
mother promised Peter. "It's a small world these days."
world, small or not, collapsed. He was lost without Nick. They did everything
together. On the little league baseball team, Peter was the catcher, and Nick
was the pitcher. Last Halloween Peter went in costume as Laurel and Nick as
Hardy. Peter slept over at Nick's house as often as he slept in his own house
and vice versa.
four weeks that Nick had been gone (four weeks, two days, and nine hours, to
be exact), Peter spent most of his time after school at the mall. Everyone
hung out there, including Harrison Smith.
Nick never talked to Harrison. Harrison was much older and had a bad
reputation particularly among the parents. They thought he might be dealing in
drugs. And they were right.
Peter, what's happening?" Harrison was standing just outside Munchies with a
bunch of other older boys. Most of them had dropped out of school. Nick had
labelled them the Nashville Nothings.
much," Peter answered. He was on his way into Munchies for a hamburger. Nick
and he always stopped on Saturdays after practice and had a hamburger at
make it happen," Harrison said, walking over to Peter and putting his arm
around his shoulder. Peter jerked away. "Hey, what's the matter? I'm just
trying to cheer you up."
unhappy," Peter answered. "You don't need to cheer me up."
stood in front of Peter and blocked his way. "Look kid, I know you lost your
best friend. That'd eat on anybody. I'm just offering some help — something to
ease the pain." He held up a little plastic container filled with red pills
and rattled it. "You've heard of pain killers haven't you? That's all they do,
my friend, kill the pain."
off," Peter said, looking Harrison straight in the eye. "I don't do drugs."
you know where to find me if you change your mind. Dr. Smith is always here to
help. Office hours any time." Harrison walked slowly back to his group. "After
all," he said over his shoulder, "what are friends for, anyway?"
Circle the best answer. Do not look back at the story.
and Nick were
twins b. best friends c. brothers
years old b. older than Harrison c. 13 years old
moved away because of
mother's job b. his father's job
and Nick played
football b. often c. baseball
Halloween they were
Bobbsey Twins b. clowns c. Laurel and Hardy
had been gone
month b. more than a month c. less than a month
spent time at
school b. practice c. the mall d. all of these
favourite restaurant was
Munchies b. Nashville Nothing c. Smiths
a. a new
friend b. to be Peter's friend c. to sell drugs to Peter d. to
cheer Peter up
Write your answers to the following questions on a separate sheet.
Put yourself in Peter's place. Pretend
another week has passed and Harrison approaches you again. Write what you
would say to him.
What do you think Peter should do about
Harrison? Should he report him, or mind his own business?
What should you do if someone approaches
you and offers to sell you drugs?
List at least five things Peter could do
to cheer him self up. Think about what you would do if you needed cheering up.
What are friends for, anyway? List at
least five definitions of a friend.
Would a true friend offer you drugs?
and Your friend
ought true friends to be like?
kind of people help others, take care of them?
kind of boys and girls are good friends?
ought you to be and do if you want to be a good son (daughter)?
kind of person do you like best? Why?
which of the boys and girls you would like to have for a friend. Explain why?
all over the world have to communicate with each other. This communication may
be at times difficult. For example, it is much easier to listen to
self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips. We should remember
the old rule: by fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more
than you have expected. If you want to win people to your way of thinking, you
should remember the rule: if you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
This attitude will help you to gain many friends, our greatest treasure in
A poem by
W. Shakespeare illustrates this point.
that is your friend indeed
will help you in the need.
sorrow, he will weep.
wake, he cannot sleep.
of every grief in heart
with you does bear a part.
are certain signs to know
Faithful friend from flattering foe.
are a necessary and inseparable part of our life. They make us kind and
generous, because a true friend is always near you when you are in times of
need. A true friend never betrays you: he will help you in trouble. The
proverb says. "A friend in need is a friend indeed". A true friend is a
precious jewellery box which holds keys to our happiness and kindness. That's
why we should cherish our old friends while making new ones.
my classmates say that they don't need friends; but I don't believe them. As a
rule, people need friends and expect help and comfort from each other. Very
often I see that my classmates have "fair weather friends" and trust them, but
then they are let down. Disappointment is the price we often pay for our
blindness. There is yet another wise English proverb which says "A hedge
between keeps friendship green". It means that true friends are always
tactful, they know when to leave you alone. They don't have to spend all their
free time with you since they have some interests and hobbies which they don't
share with you. But there are some things true friends should agree upon, such
as their outlook on life, altitudes towards people, their understanding of
duty and honour, an ability to forgive, to empathize and. most of all, to
listen and to understand.
differ. The attitude of people to a person depends on many factors: his mind,
manners, character, behaviour, abilities and appearance. If a person is
good-looking, he or she feels more confident. Unfortunately, to be pretty or
handsome doesn't mean to be happy. Very often beautiful people can be stupid,
stubborn and arrogant, whereas physically unattractive people can be
intelligent, generous and kind. That is why people often say. "Don't judge by
dreams of having a true friend, but not all of us arc lucky enough to find
one, since real affection - warmth of heart and ability to sacrifice -
is something that requires real tolerance and love.
friendship is always based on tolerance because people are very different and
some of them couldn't be friends due to their peculiar characters and
behaviour. That's why we have to be tolerant to each other, because without
this tolerance and love we won't have a peaceful world in the future.
Why do people have to communicate with
Is it easy or difficult to communicate?
What is much easier to listen to?
What rule should you remember if you want
to win people to your way of thinking?
What point does a poem of W. Shakespeare
Why are friends are necessary and
inseparable part of our life?
What proverb about a friend do you know?
Do you agree with it?
Why do people need friends?
What is the price people pay for their
What does a wise English proverb “A hedge
between keeps friendship green” mean?
What does the attitude of people to a
person depend on?
Why do people often say: “Don’t judge by
What is true friendship always based on?
Why do we have to be tolerant to each
this sentence from the article.
wish I had talked to her more about how I was feeling…
the past perfect
is a good way of talking about
regrets. Bad things happened, or you made mistakes, and sadly it is too late
to change things now.
these sentences starting with I wish....
never told me when she was upset.
she had told me when she was upset.
didn't ask her about her problems.
other friends didn't want me in their group.
said horrible things about me.
forgot her birthday.
wasn't strong enough to keep our friendship going.
have any regrets? Of course you do! Talk about one thing in your life you wish
you hadn't done, and one thing you wish you had.
"idiosyncrasies" do you find irritating in other people? Which of these people
would really annoy you?
"He plays nothing but rap music"
"She loves to complain and criticize -
she's always negative."
"She doesn't really listen when you
speak to her."
"He stops in front of every mirror and
looks at himself."
"He can't accept any sort of
criticism. He is always right."
"She leaves her clothes everywhere
around the house."
"She never wants to eat the same thing
as everyone else."
own list of the most irritating things about people in your life - friends,
family, or just people you know. Then say what you like about the same people.
Gandhi said "The only really lasting and valuable friendship is between
people of a similar nature." In the article, Susie Orr is not so sure of
this. What do you think?
Learn the poem by heart
English poet William Blake (1757-1827) wrote:
angry with my friend.
my wrath, my wrath did end.
angry with my foe.
it not; my wrath did grow.
explain the meaning of the poem?
= anger, foe =
agree with the idea?
and translate the text using the dictionary if necessary.
is the worst thing you've ever done to a friend?
friendship must be based on trust and honesty if it is to last over the years.
Even the best of friends can fall out. Sometimes thoughtless or hasty acts
cause untold damage and destroy longstanding relationships.
Catch, a magazine for young women, readers confess the worst things they
have ever done to their friends: things they have regretted ever since.
started smoking and persuaded my friend to start too, so I wouldn't feel so
guilty. Now I've long since given up but she's still hooked, and I don't think
you can do much worse to someone than that.”
she was 16, my friend had a huge crush on a lad I knew and asked me to find
out what he though of her. When I asked him, it was obvious he really fancied
her too, and he told me to tell her that. But at the time I didn't have a
boyfriend and didn't want her to have one either, so instead I told her he'd
said she was overweight and that he wouldn't be seen dead with her!
Unfortunately for me she didn't give up and eventually they got together
anyway — and once the truth came out they both dropped me.”
friend and I worked as secretaries in the same company, and we were both bored
to tears with the job and always on the lookout for something better. One day
she came in brandishing a newspaper with an advert for this brilliant-sounding
job as PA in a London publishing firm — great money, opportunities to travel,
good prospects, and she was going to apply for it. While she was out to lunch,
I borrowed the paper and sent off an application for the job as well — I
didn't want to say anything because it didn't seem fair, somehow. In the end,
she didn't even get an interview and I did, and when she found out she
wouldn't talk to me afterwards. The sad thing is, I didn't even get the job
anyway, so I lost a friend over a stupid thing.”
the activities given below:
the meanings of the following phrases by using the context:
hooked on something:
(informal) (Kate's letter)
have a crush on someone:
(informal) (Ruth's letter)
wouldn't be seen dead
with (her): (informal) (Ruth's letter)
bored to tears: (informal)
discuss the following in small groups.
Has anything similar ever happened to you
or one of your friends?
In the last two stories, friendships
ended. Have you ever lost a friend for similar reasons?
Match the columns:
до первой беды
друзья опаснее врагов
kiss and be friends
strike up a friend
не отнимает столько времени как друзья
friends are thieves of time
false friends are worth then open enemies
a friend in court is better than a penny in purse
с горой не сходятся, а человек с человеком сойдется
friends may meet but mountains never
имей сто рублей, а имей сто друзей
a friend to all is a friend to none
кто дружит со всеми, не дружит ни с кем
with a stranger
together, roommates can become the best of friends - or enemies
roommate situation is the first challenge students face. Learning to tolerate
a stranger's idiosyncrasies may teach flexibility and the art of compromise.
But the learning process is often painful. At Ithaca College in Upstate New
York, Julie Noel and her roommate were uncommunicative and uncomfortable
throughout the year. I kept my stereo up once for a whole day just to test her
because she was so timid," says Noel. "It took her until dinnertime to finally
turn it off." Near year's end. the two ended up in a screaming fight. "Looking
back, I wish I had talked to her more about how I was feeling," says Noel.
roommate conflicts spring from such small, irritating differences. Suzie Orr,
director of housing at Indiana's St. Mary's College, says that the matching
process is complicated: 'Do you put together people who are similar - or
different, so they can team about each other?"
Sussman at the University of Maryland says: “I think they must have known each
of our personalities and picked the opposite.” While Sussman was neat and
a compulsive studier, his roommate was messy and liked to party into
the early hours. Sussman considered moving out at the end of the semester, but
decided to stay and "fight it out". Against all odds, the two ended up being
friends. Says Sussman: "We taught each other a lot."
many stones of college roommates becoming lifelong friends. Singers Jean
Norris and Renee Neufville of the soul duo Zhane started writing songs while
rooming together at Temple University in Philadelphia. After breaking up with
their boyfriends within 24 hours of each other, they managed to compose their
way out of the blues.
idiosyncrasies - somebody's
individual qualities/habits (e. g. sleeping with the window open)
flexibility - being happy
to change; easy with other people
compromise - half way
between two points of view
conflict - disagreement,
from - come from/originate
matching - putting two
suitable compatible people together
compulsive - doing
something all the time; unable to stop
semester - (AmE) term (part
of the college year)
against all odds - although
it was very improbable
compose their way out of the blues
- avoid sadness by writing songs
1. How do
you get on with new people? What if you have to live or work together? Do you
become friends - or drive each other mad?
the people with the facts.
a. Suzie Orr
didn't like her
b. Jean Norris
tries to put the
right students together
c. Julie Noel
is very tidy,
unlike his roommate
d. Alan Sussman
ended up working
with her roommate
article contains three mini-stories. Decide which of them have happy endings,
and which has a sad ending.
Noel and her Roommate
Sussman and his Roommate
Norris and Renee Neufville
retell one of those mini-stories to the rest of the class - without
looking back at the article!
from Russian into English and give your opinion on the subject.
У меня была
Женская дружба порой не менее эмоциональна, чем любовный роман. Именно поэтому
она часто заканчивается бурным разрывом, оставляя в душе боль и взаимную
о трагическом конце женской дружбы можно написать настоящий роман-эпопею в
трех частях. С любовным треугольником, психологическими коллизиями, научной
фантастикой, детективной интригой и - непременно! - с ненавязчивым черным
юмором. Американский публицист Генри Менкен пришел к весьма любопытному выводу:
"По крайней мере, в одном вопросе мужчины и женщины достигли согласия: и те, и
другие не доверяют женщинам".
отметить, что ссора и конец дружбы - это совсем не обязательно одно и то же.
Дружба не заканчивается в одночасье. В один отнюдь не прекрасный день, после
нескольких недель натянутого общения, напрочь лишенного всякого
взаимопонимания, ты положишь трубку телефона и спросишь сама себя: "Почему я
все еще разговариваю с ней? Почему все стало так сложно?"
в школе, в институте - все было не в пример проще. Сколько у тебя было друзей?
Десять? Двадцать? Сейчас, когда жизнь расписана по минутам на месяц вперед, на
такое количество у тебя просто нет времени. К тому же старые подруги одна за
другой исчезают из твоей жизни - меняются ценности, которые раньше
цементировали ваши отношения, появляются зависть, чувство конкуренции, обида.
Работы много, времени мало, находить новых друзей все сложнее, и это делает их
более ценными. Терять их невозможно больно. Тот, кто придумал слова "не иметь,
чтобы не терять", должно быть, потерял слишком многих. Но должен же быть
какой-то выход? Дружба - это прежде всего равноправие. Там, где оно нарушено,
рано или поздно неизбежно начинаются проблемы. Один человек больше нуждается в
другом, и это вызывает серьезную эмоциональную зависимость. Кто-то красивее,
удачливее, богаче - это вызывает у другого сложную гамму положительных и
отрицательных реакций и т.д. И чтобы разобраться во всем, нужен большой запас
внимания и терпения.
up a composition about your best friend.
down an essay on friendship you dream of.
Fellow, Bad Worker
You work or
study together. You live in the same hostel. You may even be
friends. He is
a really good fellow...
But when you
both become engaged in the same job or educational project,
you find out
that he is also a really bad worker.
You alone do
all the work for
both of you,
then he gets his payment,
or a good mark, or an accolade,
it alone and he
doesn't even thank
considering it to be OK.
What should you
Things seem to
be quite clear.
man remembers offences, a
wise one - the
refuse to work
with him the next
time. It is
quite simple if you study
together: there are always other people
with whom you may do a project.
But what if you
work in a
especially in a small one?
You'll face a
difficult choice then.
On the one hand
it hasn't ever been
to work for two.
Besides, he is
a good fellow. So you can keep on doing his job, for no money,
and even no appreciation, but feeling
yourself a very kind and big-hearted
On the other
hand it isn't fair at all and you are definitely a straight human
being. And you
would prefer to do your own work perfectly, instead of working
for the two of
you but on a lower level. So you go to the executive office and
report. 1 consider this to be the right option; but what will you feel
putting a good fellow out of
A couple of
weeks ago a man tried to stegl my bag at the university. And the
security guards didn't stop him even when he ran past them to the
running after him, shouted "Stop him! He is a thief!" Should I have filed
lawsuit? Should I have clamoured against the guards? I didn't, because they
are good fellows, and
they live in the same hostel with my fellow-students.
How do college friendships differ from
school in other circumstances and at other times?
What is the author’s opinion about high
What’s your idea of friendships?
Stories about girls and friendships
the stories from Russian into English. Say if you have examples from your own
experience and observations.
Дружба Кати и Милы началась еще в детском саду, а разваливаться стала пару лет
назад, когда образ жизни Катерины кардинально изменился. Она получила хорошую
работу в российском
представительстве крупной западной компании, купила квартиру и потеряла
интерес к богемным тусовкам и барам, где Мила проводила большую часть времени,
а та увидела в подруге препятствие своему дальнейшему росту. А поскольку обе
женщины испытывали большую нелюбовь ко всяческим разборкам и скандалам, финал
"мы просто перестали разговаривать" показался им самым
Маша и Лена познакомились на вступительных экзаменах в университете.
общежитии поселились вместе, и
последующие пять лет всегда были неразлучны. "Тогда Ленку интересовали только
гитара, рок-музыка и соответствующая одежда - майки и джинсы.
И немного иностранные языки, - вспоминает Маша,
настоящая красавица. - Она была помешана на идее всеобщей справедливости и
братства и не считала, сколько мужиков посмотрело на нее, а сколько на меня,
что, согласись, явление редкое.
вдруг на четвертом курсе
любимую подругу будто прорвало: она постоянно злилась на меня, через каждые
два предложения вставляла "Ну и везет же тебе!" и, словно в детском саду,
копировала каждый мой шаг.
Вика познакомилась с Ириной два года назад. Как раз до
этого она бросила пить. "Я была очень
уязвима, не уверена в себе, боялась, что без алкоголя мне будет еще тяжелее,
чем с ним. Ира появилась в трудный момент и сразу взяла меня под свое крыло.
Она выслушивала, поддерживала, успокаивала и - главное! - помогала мне
осознать, что жизнь без алкоголя не только возможна, но и приносит большое
проводили уйму времени вместе на протяжении полугода. Вика безгранично
доверяла Ире и эмоционально очень от нее зависела. Но однажды что-то
изменилось. "Моя жизнь потихоньку стала налаживаться, я вновь обрела оптимизм
и уверенность. И в отношении Ирины ко мне появилось нечто
покровительственно-враждебное, мешающее моему росту. Мы разговаривали все
меньше и меньше, чувствовалась натянутость.
Я начала работать референтом - она тут же заявила, что это ее призвание, я
познакомилась с симпатичным немцем - она потребовала представить ее его
друзьям, я поехала отдыхать в Стамбул - она вслед на последние деньги
отправилась в Анкару.
звонила мне поздно ночью и
подробно рассказывала об очередном типе, с которым познакомилась.
- Но мне это было
совсем неинтересно, я не хотела это выслушивать и часто просто включала
автоответчик". Это достижение цивилизации
позволяет без каких-либо усилий
сохранять дружеский фасад, за которым уже давным-давно ничего
the following proverbs in situation of your own. (Give suitable Russian
equivalents if possible).
friends all things are common.
b. A man
is known by the company he keeps.
Friendship cannot stand always on one side.
broken friendship can be soldered, but will never be sound.
the specific opinions described in these essays. Do you agree with them?
«Если дело касается
мужика, даже самые лучшие подруги становятся заклятыми врагами», - любит
повторять один мой приятель, и мне, увы, нечего ему возразить. Кровная
заинтересованность в одном и том же персонаже практически всегда приводит к
вольной борьбе за кусочек своего женского счастья. А древняя, кажется
грузинская, народная мудрость гласит: «Если женщины дерутся, в драку лучше не
вступать». Третий, в конце концов, уходит в сторону, но им нередко оказывается
именно мужчина. Предмет раздора, изрядно помятый и потрепанный в пылу схватки,
хромая, спешно покидает поле брани (в самом широком смысле слова), чтобы
Не самая белая
В известной детской
песенке поется: "Друг в беде не бросит, лишнего не спросит (фольклорный
вариант - "денег не попросит"), вот что значит настоящий, верный друг". Но это
еще не вся правда. Иной раз и бросит, и спросит, попросит. Куда большая
добродетель - разделить с другом успех, искренне за него порадоваться и
ухитриться не позавидовать. Зависть радикального черного цвета -
сокрушительная сила, способная искалечить самую закадычную дружбу.
Ну конечно – она была
просто подругой. Один из мифов о женской дружбе заключается в том, что наши
отношения просты и великодушны, некое замечательное бомбоубежище, где мы
отдыхаем от мужчин.
Дружба обречена, если
вы сошлись на почве неких обстоятельств, а не благодаря глубоким чувствам
родства, доверия, понимания. Обстоятельства имеют свойство меняться – значит,
в любой момент могут измениться и ваши отношения.
Подруга. По этому
предмету нет самоучителей и путеводителей. Но порой становится так больно и
удручающе пусто, что понимаешь: «просто подруга» - это на самом деле очень
много. И мужчины здесь ни при чем.
психолог и юрист Маргарет Кент в своей нашумевшей методике «Как выйти замуж»
не раз возвращается к теме подруги. Не стоит приходить на вечеринку с
подругой, если в твои планы входит знакомство с мужчиной. Если ты не можешь
честно сказать, почему именно не стоит этого делать, и начинаешь разговоры в
пользу бедных – дескать, она будет чувствовать себя брошенной, миссис Кент
раскроет тебе глаза.
По законам жанра я
наверняка должна была бы завершить эту печальную песнь жизнеутверждающими
фанфарами и рецептом волшебного эликсира, продляющего дружбу на века. Но, увы.
Фанфары заглохли, эликсир ушел в землю, однажды разбитое уже не склеить. Хотя
есть один маленький секрет. При любых обстоятельствах, при любых обидах
обязательно надо поговорить, попробовать разобраться, что чувствует твоя
подруга, объяснить, что происходит с тобой. Всегда есть надежда, что еще не
все потеряно. К тому же не очень умно расставаться врагами. Как говорит моя
любимая подруга, люди должны разговаривать друг с другом. Это единственный
конструктивный способ разрешения проблем.
want to have a friend
FRIENDSHIP IS A VERY GREAT THING
remember the English proverbs about friendship which you have discussed
already? Here they are: "A friend in need is a friend indeed," "A good friend
is as the sun in winter," "A friend is easier lost than found," "A friend to
everybody is a friend to nobody."
Friendship is a very great thing and that's why people of all countries have
so many proverbs about it. As you do not know all English proverbs about
friends and friendship, here are some more. Take, for example, this one: "A
friend is never known till a man has need."
it mean? It means that the best friend is the one who helps you when you are
really in need of help. You know your real — friends when you are in a
second proverb is "A friend is not so soon gotten as lost." The meaning of
this proverb is that it takes a long time to become really friendly with
somebody. But there are many ways of quickly losing a friend if you do
something wrong. So you must try to keep a friendship.
English proverb is "Before you make a friend, eat a bushel of salt with him."1
Of course, you need not eat much salt to become good friends but you must know
your friend very well. If you help each other and do useful and important
things together, your friendship will last a very long time.
"friendship" and "comradeship" are very close to each other in meaning.
Friends and comrades may have the same interests, they understand, help,
respect and trust each other.
DISCUSSING THE READING
English proverbs about friendship do you remember?
what way can you learn to know your real friends?
long have you known your best friend? What sort of a girl (boy) is she (he)?
you ever helped someone with his school work? Have those pupils become your
will you do if a boy (girl) comes up to you and says, "I should like you to be
friends with me"?
Make up a story about your friendship.
Give some examples of real friendship from Russian literature.
Questions for answering:
traits of character would you name as typical for a normal friendship?
b. Why do
many people attach such importance to friendship?
READING FOR DISCUSSION
the following text which will help you to discuss what real friendship is.
Ex. 6. IF
YOU WANT TO HAVE A FRIEND...
suppose that everybody here in this group has a good friend. Friendship
between two people grows when they do something useful together and when they
have the same interests. Their friendship is still better if they understand
each other well.
remember the English proverb "A friend in need is a friend indeed"? We agreed
that you cannot live without friends, that real friends are always ready to
help each other. Let us also agree that the real friendship is possible only
when people respect and trust each other.
can see that friendship between two people is a very great thing. As English
people say, "A good friend is as the sun in winter." A good proverb, isn't it?
A real friend makes your life happier and more interesting. He is dear to you
and you want your friendship to last for a very long time.
there are some other English proverbs about friendship and friends. Take, for
example, this one: "A friend is easier lost than found." What does it mean? It
means that it is difficult to find a good friend. You may lose a friend
quickly if you do something wrong. Always think how to keep friendship.
is another thing which is no less important: if you want to have a friend, you
have to be good friends yourselves.
does friendship grow between two people? 2. When is real friendship possible?
What is real friendship in your opinion? 3. What does the proverb "A friend is
easier lost than found" mean? 4. Have you a real friend? What do you do
together? 5. What books about friendship have you read? 6. Did you like them?
If You Want to Have a Friend)
use the following:
true. - Это
- He правда
so. - Думаю,
English proverb says: "A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody."
you do for your friend?
with his mathematics or in other subjects; bring him his homework (a library
book) when he cannot come to school; help him with his work on something; help
him with his problems; do difficult work in his garden (about the house);
anything he asks me to do, if I can do it.)
2. One of
your classmates said, "That's not very friendly of you." Discuss what you may
think about the boy (girl) to whom this was said.
always friendly towards other classmates; sometimes wasn't ready to help other
pupils; thought about himself (herself) a little more than about other people;
said something wrong about a pupil because he (she) didn't know the real
came to your friend's place and asked him, "Can you come out with me for a
finish this work first," answered your friend.
which is more important for your friend — to do what he must do or what he
likes to do with his friends.
first what he has to do; does not forget his duties; understands what has to
4. Say if
you have a friend whom you never want to lose. Explain why he (she) is so dear
work and play together; like to talk and go out together; is helpful;
understand each other; has respect for me (respects my opinion); trust each
(Text If You Want to Have a Friend)
use the following:
- Да, конечно.
right. - Я не думаю, что ты прав.
- Может быть.
a discussion about friendship a girl said, "Her friendship means a lot to me."
other what the girl wanted to say about her friend.
an old friend of hers; their friendship lasted very long; she was older and
knew many important things; she could advise her younger friend on what to do;
she helped her to decide correctly in difficult situations.)
friend said in a conversation with you, "I'm prepared to help you if you want
about the way your friend could help you.
do my homework; with my work in the garden; get an interesting book; carry
paper and metal to school; draw a placard.)
Can you give definitions of these expressions:
person one knows and likes, who is not a member of one’s family (a noun - …?)
without any friends (adj. - …?)
behaving in a kind and pleasant way; acting like a friend (adj. - …?)
feeling or relationship that friends have; the state of being friend (a noun -
Write down a composition about friendship.